There are many myths within the relationship universe that believe it indicate what a perfect couple relationship is like. One of them is the belief that opposites attract, that is, that two opposite people feel a strong attraction for each other and, indeed, complement each other and manage to be a “perfect” relationship.
However, this is another of the many romantic myths to banish. In this article, we will tell you why the myth that the opposite poles are attracted does not always work and that, deep down, the perfect base relationship does not exist: you need constancy, respect, affection, and love.
Why does the myth that opposites attract arise?
It is a socially accepted myth that starts with the idea that a person is incomplete on their own; therefore, by knowing another person who is the opposite of them, they feel a strong attraction to, thus, getting complete.
This is part of an idea that is already fundamentally wrong: people are 100% complete. We do not need anyone to complete us, but complement us, to bring us good things, but not to fully form us, because we are already formed. Believing in love as in need is a toxic and dangerous sign.
But a very different person can indeed bring you new ideas, new thoughts, a way of living different from yours… Knowing people who are different from oneself is always interesting to be able to open the gaze and mind. But from there you’re attracted to, it’s a step: it can be interesting and innovative, but it doesn’t have to attract you; that’s a myth.
It’s also important to keep in mind that two people who are truly opposites are unlikely to fit together. If they have different ways of thinking, disparate ideologies, and opposing ways of life, it’s very difficult for them to find each other at some point and consider themselves happy.
For all this, the myth that opposite poles are nothing more than that: a myth. A romantic construction of love and the couple that aims to believe that a person other than you can complete. But no one completes you because you’re already complete. In a relationship, what you should seek is to have a partner with whom there is respect, there is love, there is independence, there is affection, etc. And, of course, it is quite important that, more or less, you have a life or an idea of similar life: otherwise, you will constantly clash, and it will be difficult for you to build a relationship in which you both feel fulfilled and comfortable.
The phrase that opposites attract can have 10% reality, in the sense that a person very different from you can draw your attention, mostly out of curiosity and by difference. But trying to build a relationship with that different person can be a complicated task for both sides.
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