Do you find it difficult to connect emotionally with those around you? Sometimes, it’s not just with strangers, but also with friends, family, brothers…
Even if it’s hard for you, don’t worry, you can learn to connect emotionally with those around you thanks to the keys we’re going to give you.
To do this, you must analyze your way of interacting with others.
Are you a shy person? Do you have a hard time expressing your feelings? Look in the eye? These may be factors that may be preventing you from connecting emotionally with other people.
Listen And Watch Carefully To Connect Emotionally
It may have happened to you once that someone you were talking to didn’t look you in the eye. I looked down, up, on the sides, but at no time did I make eye contact with you.
This is terrible in communication and you may do the same without realizing it.
The look will allow you to connect emotionally with those around you, as you will feel and feel close while having a conversation with other people.
The gaze can say many things: I understand you, I’m interested in what you’re telling me, I’m empathizing with you.
However, the look is not the only key, active listening is also fundamental. Well, you may put this into practice, but you’re so focused on avoiding evading the eyes of others, you forget to listen to them.
Listening carefully to what others tell us and not intervening unless it’s our turn will allow us to connect emotionally with other people.
They will feel that we are paying attention to their, interest and that we are empathizing with what they are telling us.
The Connection Stories
Connection stories are those experiences of ours or those points where we agree with the people we have just met or who just went through the same thing. Let’s set a simple example.
Imagine we’re attending English classes and we don’t know anyone yet. Suddenly, a person sits next to us. He’s got a small notebook that puts poems on.
It strikes us and far from being quiet, we say: how interesting. Do you write poetry? The other person says yes, and we tell her that we have a poetry blog.
That’s it, a connection story has emerged that will lead us to the desire to know more about each other, see what more points match and may start a nice friendship. Connection stories are very important.
So, to connect emotionally with those around you don’t be afraid to express what you think. According to the above example, one could shut up and say nothing when watching the notebook. But you’d be missing a great opportunity.
Communicating with others, facing our shyness and our fears, looking in the eyes, and listening attentively are great keys that will allow us to connect with wonderful people with whom to establish very strong ties.
Don’t Judge Hurriedly.
Perhaps the fact that you are not able to connect emotionally with those around you is not the issue mentioned above but judge others quickly.
For this, it’s important to be open to meeting people for what they are like, not because of what you think they are.
Sometimes we take a story in our head as a result of lived experiences or various generalizations that only harm us when we want to meet new people. That’s why let’s be aware of these trials and throw them away.
I’m sure each of us has some experience in which he judged someone too quickly and then he regretted it because reality showed him that the other person was the opposite.
Let’s take it as a reference so as not to make the same kind of mistake.
Are you able to connect emotionally with those around you? What is that factor that influences you not to do so?
For example, if you’re not able to look into your eyes it may be because you feel shame or shyness. If you don’t listen, it may be because you despise the importance of what others tell you.
We don’t have to blame ourselves on us for what we can find out about our attitude. Being aware is what will allow us to solve it, be as we want to be, and connect emotionally with others.
Because there are many wonderful people we deserve to meet.