Unfortunately, bullying, now known as bullying, is something that has always existed. Although only recently has he been given the importance he deserves. It has long been seen as something natural and not as the serious problem it is.
Today, it is common to hear about bullying in schools. However, harassment is suffered by people of all ages and is present in all spheres of life. Unfortunately, some people are bullied at work, in the family, and even in their circle of friendships.
What bullying or harassment means
We understand that harassment is any act of continued abuse that ends up negatively affecting the self-esteem of the battered person.
Thus, the abuse, intimidation, and continued physical and psychological assaults by one or more people over another end up hurting the personal growth of the latter. Adults tend to have the resources to identify when they are being abused.
Bullying or child harassment
If the object of bullying is a child, the problem may be even more important. Let’s think a child doesn’t have a personality yet. And therefore, it also does not have a definite criterion that helps you to put in place the people who are causing harm to you.
Hence, to the slightest suspicion that your child may be suffering harassment, something needs to be done about it. Bullying is not a game. Many lives have been lost because of this social scourge.
In the most serious cases of bullying, children are abused to the point that they are induced into depression, a disorder that could even lead to suicide. And it is that the situation of helplessness in which the stalker places his victim leads him to think of suicide as the only possible solution.
For all this, we put at your disposal some tips on what to do, if necessary.
1. Don’t threaten people who are causing abuse
Nobody likes them to get theirs wrong. However, we must be especially careful when abusers are children. He thinks that even holding a minor to account could bring you even more trouble.
Hence our advice is not to use this method. On the contrary, try to talk to them cordially. Better still is trying to talk to the abuser’s parents. Maybe they’ll be receptive and manage to correct their children’s behavior.
2. Don’t force your kid to return the blow
In many cases, parents get tired of their child being targeted by the abuser’s aggressiveness. And mistakenly, they encourage them to pay with the same coin. Don’t fall for this. Remember that violence only brings more violence.
3. Don’t over-protect your child
It is clear that, as parents, we seek to protect our children from any situation that may harm them. But changing your school, neighborhood, or city, and even forbidding you from leaving, is not the solution to a situation of harassment.
It is as counterproductive to encourage him to be aggressive as passive. Either way, harassment is a problem to be addressed. Hence running away, I don’t solve anything.
4. Act immediately
The same moment you notice that your child is being disturbed by other people, take action. The longer it passes, your child is going to get hurt. Explain to abuse is not normal
And don’t hesitate to talk to those involved immediately. That is, with teachers and with the rest of the children and parents. Support from the educational community can be a determining factor in early resolution of the conflict.
5. Bring him full support to your son
In these cases, it’s important to make your child see how valuable he is. That he or she has done nothing to deserve such abuses. Many times parents are outside their children’s experiences. Hence also the importance of building a strong and sincere relationship with your children.
You must give him all your confidence. Only in this way will he tell you every single thing that happens to him in his diary. Keep in mind that one of the pernicious effects of bullying is making you feel ashamed of the victim.
6. Look for new spaces
The routine from home to school and from school to home can help your child have depression problems. Try to look for new spaces that will encourage your child to make new friendships. Take him to practice some sport or activity that raises his self-esteem and employs him thoroughly. It will serve to heal your mind, release stress, and fill you with good energy.
Remember…
We hope these tips will help you deal with this problem. Remember, it’s not normal for them to bother and beat a child. And it’s easier to redirect this kind of abuse when you face it from the beginning.
At least suspect, don’t hesitate to go to school. Talk to the faculty there and the counselor. They must intervene with the relatives of those involved. Also, try to give a lot of love to your son. And, for nothing in the world, teach him to be aggressive with the people who abuse him. Violence could go further and further aggravate the situation.
It is also important to bear in mind that abuse can occur both at school and elsewhere. Hence our exhortation that if you are a victim or know someone who is, in any field, do your best to solve this problem. Be active in finding the solution. No one, absolutely anyone, can be subjected to any kind of abuse. Let’s make it very clear and strong: No to bullying.
Remember to go to a mental health specialist as soon as possible if you consider that the child or child may be suffering psychological consequences from the harassment.
References:
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- Piñuel, I., and Oñate, A. (2007). School Mobbing: Violence and psychological harassment against children. Madrid: CEAC.
- Sanmartín, J. (2007). Violence and bullying in schools, Mind and Brain, 26:12-19.