NOTE: This article does not mean that women need more things than men, simply that there are certain things that they look for and men do not (or vice versa).
We need to pay attention to what we need to be happy and fulfilled, something that has nothing to do with possessions and material things, but with our habits and customs.
The 7 changes that will make your life happier
1 – Learn to ask for forgiveness: “Excuse me”, “I’m sorry”, and “pardon me”, are the most difficult words to say, even if we mean them. It is not necessary to regret everything, to keep saying sorry all the time without it being true, to lower your head, etc. What is good is to accept your mistakes, without forgetting that each one can have their own decisions and preferences.
2 – Saying yes to everything and everyone: but not saying “yes” to yourself. It is a mistake to promise when we cannot keep our promise or we do not feel like it. When a friend wants to go out dancing and you prefer to stay home, but you go with her anyway… once is fine but if it becomes a habit, you will be putting aside your tastes or comfort to please others. Set your limits, respect your words, and learn that a “no” is sometimes synonymous with loving yourself but not with selfishness. Take the risk, go to the places you want, look for the ideal job, dare to achieve your dreams, and above all, eliminate the negative from your mind.
3 – Thinking that food is an enemy: It may sound a bit artificial, but thousands of women around the world have problems with their diet. Beauty standards and competition, as well as what you see on catwalks and in advertisements, are not real at all. The body needs nutrients to be healthy, have energy, work, study, etc. Don’t obsess about having perfect hair, makeup that lasts all day, food that doesn’t make you fat, etc. Enjoy the pleasure of a good plate of your favorite dessert, a dinner with friends, or a family lunch. A chocolate bar won’t make you a worse person.
4 – Criticizing your appearance: as a complement to the previous point, many women should learn more from men (and this is not sexism at all) to love themselves as they are. Don’t think that you could be prettier, or that you are fat, or that your legs are horrible. Don’t be afraid to look at yourself in the mirror, to enjoy your body, to love and pamper yourself. Complaining about your body will not help you achieve anything good, but quite the opposite, the only thing you will achieve is lower your self-esteem.
5 – Holding on to feelings of guilt or regret: if you did or said something at that time, it was important or worthwhile, even if the results were not as expected. Do not hurt yourself with pressures, with weights from the past, because that cannot be remedied or fixed. You cannot turn back time. Better live in the present, regret only serves to torment.
6 – Being afraid of other people’s opinions: What does it matter what other people around you say? They will always have something to criticize. Don’t be afraid to say what’s wrong with you, to dress as you feel comfortable, or to do the activities that bring you happiness. Don’t choose what your parents want for you, what your partner hopes for your future, or what your friends tell you.
7 – Worrying about loneliness: This is a very common fear, also due to culture and customs. No woman wants to be, even if she doesn’t accept it, “the spinster aunt.” But it’s not good for you to spend your life looking for true love and choosing the first man who comes along. Don’t obsess about being alone at a certain age, learn to have fun with yourself, get to know yourself first, and then, yes, find your soul mate. Don’t be with someone just because society says that after 30 if you’re not married, you’re a failure.
This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace professional consultation. If in doubt, consult your specialist.