In social relationships, it is not good to try to please everyone, but neither is it good to try to upset those around us. Some people irritate others with their attitudes, but they often refuse to acknowledge it. They also do not interpret the signals that their environment sends them and the truth is that they find it difficult to maintain good relationships with those around them.
People who irritate others have problems with empathy. They have a hard time understanding that they create stressful or unpleasant situations. They often feel proud of causing rejection in others and justify this rejection based on a certain superiority.
The truth is that for most people some attitudes and behaviors are annoying. They block communication with others and generate negative emotions. To leave no doubt, we will now talk about some types of people who irritate others.
“ Friendship could only take place through the development of mutual respect and within a spirit of sincerity .”
-Dalai Lama-
1. The bossy ones
This is the type of person who does not necessarily shout, but who does tend to speak imperatively. In one way or another, they think that others are at their service. They do not ask, but rather order. They do not advise, but rather point out the path to follow. Something or someone has made them believe that they have the right to do so.
They are sometimes very subtle, but they still can’t help their tendency to boss others around. They are not leaders, in the strict sense of the word . That’s precisely what makes them “bossy” – no one has given them that role. They are people who irritate others because few, if any, adults enjoy feeling controlled.
2. Boasters are people who irritate others
These are first cousins of the above, but it is clearer that they are inspired by a feeling of inferiority . They tend to boast about everything. If they got up early, it is because they are very disciplined. If they got up late, it is because of their lack of attachment to routines.
Their self-praise is a real nuisance. In fact, it represents a form of passive envy. They want to arouse the envy of others, because they themselves are very envious . They send a toxic message and very few people can stand them for more than half an hour.
3. Those who are excessively solicitous
These people are at the opposite end of the spectrum. They irritate others because they are self-defeating. They want to please others excessively . They shower them with praise, attention and praise. At first they may seem pleasant and welcoming, but over time they become annoying.
A person who does not feel worthy or valuable generates a feeling of discomfort in others . Implicitly, it is known that they are seeking approval. In general, mentally healthy people do not feel comfortable approving or disapproving of others. That is why these types of attitudes end up irritating.
4. The accusetas
The accusetas are those people who want to look wonderfully good with authority figures, especially if it is to the detriment of their peers . They want to be part of the circle of the powerful, even if it is in a servile way. Deep down, they despise themselves and, for that very reason, they despise those who are like them.
These types of people are irritating because of their servility and disloyalty . They generate distrust in others and end up becoming instruments of their superiors. They hang around power because they fear it. They please those who hold some authority to win their favor and avoid being victims of it.
5. The “chistines”
“Chistines” are those people who are always making jokes about everything without taking others into consideration. They often laugh at others and not with others . They try to be witty, but they are rather brazen. They touch on subjects that could be sensitive for others, without giving importance to what they feel.
These chronic pranksters often resort to aggressive content in their jokes. They enjoy disconcerting or annoying those around them . They think that impertinence is a virtue and inconsideration is a way of asserting themselves. The “jokers” hide behind jokes so as not to genuinely relate to anyone.
These are just some of the types of people who irritate others. What they have in common is a lack of self-esteem and empathy . A poor relationship with themselves leads to a tense relationship with others.
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- Kelly, J. A., & del Viso Pabón, S. (2000). Social skills training: a practical guide for interventions . Desclée de Brouwer.