Meditation and conscious breathing exercises can improve the quality of sexual relations. The result of combining mindfulness and sex is more intense pleasure , as well as longer-lasting erections and orgasms.
Mindfulness is the practice of full attention and concentration on the here and now. A type of conscious meditation that contributes to increasing emotional and psychological well-being. Therefore, if we apply this ancient technique to the sexual field, the benefits we obtain are equally remarkable. Do you want to know how to extract the full potential of this tandem?
The problem: the wandering mind
If you were ever distracted, distracted or focused on other things while having sex with your partner, perhaps these lines will help you. Many times we are not able to get our worries out of our heads , despite being in an intimate moment with our partner. Our thoughts seem to go off on their own towards different fronts, problems and worries .
For example, an argument you had with your coworker, a pending issue, your children’s bad grades, the weekend meal with your in-laws… Anything can come to mind even at the most unexpected and inopportune moment. That’s why we stop making love, to simply disconnect for a while.
How to live sex more consciously
The teachers of this so-called “sexual mindfulness” believe that we tend to trivialize sexuality more and more. According to them, the intimate act becomes a mere masturbation with the other person’s body. Something frivolous and superficial . But with the practice of mindfulness this childishness disappears.
With mindfulness, this lack of concentration disappears during sexual intercourse. It allows you to focus solely on the present moment, on that magical instant with your partner. This will make you enjoy it fully and experience more pleasurable sensations.
Focusing on the here and now allows us to re-experience the intensity of the first caresses. We are energy. And the best sex is that which occurs between two people who are connected.
How to combine mindfulness and sex
In order to clarify any doubts you may have had, we suggest some ways to incorporate the mindfulness and sex tandem into your life. Actions and behaviors that you can carry out with your partner to enjoy and experience the advantages it offers.
Kiss consciously
The next time you see your partner, try to concentrate only on the kiss you are giving him/her . Close your eyes. Notice the thickness of his/her lips, their texture, their temperature, the sound… Try to convey to him/her that you are only one, that the moment is for and by you. Make that kiss the manifestation of the desire, love and passion that you have for each other.
Breathe deeply
During stimulation and the different phases of sexual response, breathing plays a crucial role. Not only because it allows the rhythm required for intercourse to be maintained, but also because it shows the degree of arousal of both partners.
Changes in the other’s physiology allow you to obtain privileged information. Therefore, if you observe how your breathing rate changes throughout the encounter, you will be able to connect much better with your partner. You will know what excites him or her the most or when he or she will reach climax.
Enjoy your 5 senses
We worry less about enjoying the small moments with our partners and more about the moment when orgasm is going to come. That’s why we often try to delay ejaculation or worry about getting an erection.
Mindfulness and sex come together so that you can appreciate every touch on your skin. You can try to pay close attention to every detail of the other person: the small mole on their back, the softness of their hands, the soft smell of their hair, every sound they make… It is the here and now in its purest essence.
Keeping your senses at their peak is not easy. But if you manage to do it, in addition to being in complete synchrony with the conscious present, you will be able to take advantage of the power it gives to your emotions and sensations.
Longer lasting orgasms
Little by little, mindfulness will increase the speed of your arousal and prolong the duration of your orgasm . Some experts talk about up to 15 minutes! One possible explanation is a greater stimulation of the insula , a brain structure closely related to love and sexual desire.
Sex is a sensitive and somewhat complicated topic to discuss. Its subjectivity and its taboo status prevent it from being discussed naturally. But the sexual aspect of a relationship should not be forgotten, regardless of the importance that each member of the relationship gives it.
The quality of your sexual encounters can be used to test the state of your relationship. A couple who doesn’t feel like having sex often has a deeper problem. Sex can therefore be an indicator of an underlying condition.
Mindfulness and sex are the perfect tandem for a satisfying relationship. Enjoying every moment with your partner is essential to building steps in your life project together.